Well, today is another day...JUST another day. Yes, this day is just like so many before and after it, but in it's own way it is special. We live our lives one day at a time. We each have our own set of problems, our own set of trials and tribulations, our own set of happy times and joy. I've really enjoyed blogging on 360 for the past year. Yes, my life also has had its ups and downs. However, I feel great joy knowing that so many of you are slowly but surely learning to be yourself. We talk a lot about friendships and they are a very important part of our lives. The friends I've made over the last year have helped me in more ways than they can possibly know. Thanks to the examples set, the comments offered, the friendship, the companionship, and the real love offered here, my life has reached a new plateau of happiness. My emotional state is so much better...my outlook on myself and everyone I meet is different...my marriage is better, and my relationship with my God is too.

All this may sound mushy to some. Some may even think I'm being disingenuous...but I'm not. I sincerely feel that without the internet connections I've made with so many of you, I would still be a very frustrated MAN, looking for ways to justify a bad habit, and feeling guilty all the time. In 57 years it never once dawned on me that the feelings I had been experiencing all my life were natural and nothing to be feared. Rather, they were feelings that needed to be expressed as a normal part of my life. I hate that I wasted 57 years keeping that major part of my life bottled up in the background. Thanks to all of you, now I can learn to properly express those emotions, feelings, and feminine thoughts. Those that are not familiar with what being TG means, I just wish there was some way to open your minds so you can see into the beautiful hearts of so many TG ladies. I have personally watched my wife change from someone that had severe reservations about the validity of a TG brain, to someone that supports me in expressing the female part of my brain.

Also, there are many TG ladies out there that have unsupportive spouses and the frustration level grows and grows until you think you're going to burst. I've been there and I know how debilitating it can be. I've had times when I could barely do my job because I was so desperately wanting to be somewhere else, searching for ways to express my femininity. After the frustration reaches a certain level, our spouses begin to notice, others around us notice too...even if they aren't sure what is wrong with us. I want to encourage all of you that have unsupportive spouses, not to give up. Women are very intuitive and there is not much you can really hide from them. They know something is wrong when you sulk around all depressed and frustrated. Often they know about your dressing even when you think they don't...they just hope it's a fad that will go away in time. I've found that communication...honest and open is the best policy.

I know what many of you think...that if she finds out, she will take off...leave you...or worse, stop loving you. I really don't think that happens very often. If your love for each other is strong, you will be able, in time, to work things out. Hopefully, she will come to understand the true meaning of being TG...that's it's something you were born with and something that will not go away no matter how much she ignores it or berates it. Hopefully, she will come to realize that this feminine part you so strongly desire to express, is something that has always been with you, is a part of you now, and will always be with you. Hopefully, she will come to realize it's not something to be feared...it's not something she has to compete against, but rather, it's something that will make you a happier, more complete human being...a better husband, and even a better lover.

To the wives of TG ladies...please don't force your husband into a dark corner. If you really love him, have an open mind and be willing to at least listen to him. So often, we spend all our lives just learning what being TG really means. We feel we have wasted all those years in a way. A large part of our lives has been, as I like to say, duct taped into the closet. There are few things that will cause a troubled heart more than a lack of freedom. Ladies, try to realize that your husband is NOT just being silly...he's not a sissy...he's not a pervert. He's the man you married and have lived with for however many years. His female side and his male side are both part of who he is. You must have seen that softer side that so many women say they want in a man. When you finally come to accept him completely...not just the male persona...you will have a much more loving, appreciative, accepting, happy, grateful, and no longer frustrated husband. I know you will not regret it.

So, that's my word for the day. I never know what to blog about, but this has been on my mind as I have been trying to encourage and help some of my friends that are so frustrated. The power is in the wife to a great degree. If she will be approachable and open minded, there are only happier days ahead. Men...be patient, more loving, and let your feelings be known. I hope this can be of benefit to someone...anyone. If it helps just one person I will be happy. I'm always available through email, etc. for those that want to talk more about this. Thanks again to all my wonderful friends that have taught me so much over the last year.